Hi Harshit, welcome to the blog. Not to worry. At the unconscious level, there is a consensus and the consensus is non-monogamy. So I’m engaged in a process that will ultimately make that consensus conscious … cheers :)

Hi Bella donna,

Welcome to the blog. If you ask me, children need far more than two parents. As they used to say, “it takes a village.” And that is where I believe this is headed, to poly communities and the complete dismantling of the (extremely toxic) nuclear family.

Thanks for your contribution.

I like your thoughts. I have found that children REALLY DO need quality love from their parent or parents. I wholeheartedly agree that everyone in the world should be free to be parents – regardless of race, gender or relationship – but the best chidren are products of stable, loving parent(s).
When I was younger I used to say that I didn’t need a man to have kids. I’d do it all on my own if I wanted. Now that I have children I realise there is no way that I would want to raise children on my own. Too hard. Too painful. Too draining. Hats off to anyone who does!!

Hi Lisa, welcome to the blog, I appreciate your comment. Actually, I found it very effective to say that everyone knows monogamy is wrong. Because everyone knows monogamy is wrong.

Look, there are multiple layers of consciousness. There is the level where we are all tapped in to truth and justice, and at that level everyone knows monogamy is wrong, the same way they know that eating meat and fish is wrong, and the same way everyone knew that racial segregation was wrong.

And then there is the superficial ego consciousness where everyone wants to pretend they don’t know what they know. I don’t care how big a stink the segregationists made, they knew it was wrong. They just wanted to play the pretend game a little longer because it felt uncomfortable to face their own fear and hatred.

So from my perspective there is a lot of value in appealing to the level of consciousness where we all agree, and we all know it’s wrong. It’s like the boy in the story who said “the Emperor has no clothes.” Everyone knew the Emperor was naked but nobody would admit it. Except a small child who hadn’t been conditioned with enough social baloney yet to deceive himself.

Thanks for participating in the conversation :)

“everyone knows monogamy is wrong the same way everyone knew racial segregation was wrong”
If I am to literally accept this quote, it would seem that when racial segregation was happening everyone knew it was wrong? Allot of people “knew” it was correct, allot of people “knew” it was the right thing to do. People “knew” that white people were superior. I disagree with all of those things. Allot of people knew what was right based on what they were told. It was a long long time before people realized that segregation is in fact ridiculous. I think making a comment – everyone just knows it’s wrong is kind of a sell out, and not really an answer to a quesiton someone clearly wants real information on. I mean thats like having a gay forum blog, and someone saying, everyone just knows being gay is wrong, and thats the end of it! you can’t learn anything that way…. at least not in my experience.

everyone knows monogamy is wrong the same way everyone knew racial segregation was wrong. they needed lots of words to justify segregation also because it’s hard work justifying hate and fear :)

Generalizations are always refreshing. What a wonderful way to avoid a straight reply. Let me elaborate Erika, to view monogamy as a limitation, one in which two souls are not able to expand their and be true to their expression of spirit is simply a quick ditch attempt to shirk applying oneself in that format. Again back to the word form…forum, format, formation–where in the world do you get off thinking that by reinventing the forms, formation and forum in which people can relate that you are helping the cause of expansion? Expansion and applying ACIM principles have very little to do with form. As I see it, what you are selling is a lazy way to avoid transcendence through what is. Monogamy is what is currently the status quo. Granted evidence supports that many people fail to find happiness within that structure, but that doesn’t make the structure wrong. It means we should go deeper within what is a current societal framework and elevate that. You won’t get anywhere by “judging” something as prevalent as monogamy as wrong my dear. You may however discover some freedom in your acceptance of being hurt deeply by what is. By admitting failures and personal shortcomings within the context of what is…by asking yourself to rise to a maximal expression of Self in form, in harmony with what is. I still really encourage you to try and illustrate to me how this anti monogamy thing is working for you in your life. What relationship style are you currently in? And how is that setup, the vague “third path” you reference, leading you beyond the body? I beg to know.

Hi Celeste,

Welcome to the blog and thanks for commenting.

I will keep my response very simple: Everyone knows that monogamy is wrong.