Good Choice. It would be nice to see a revision post on your 5 lays in 1 month mission, however. What's your stance now?

It's always about a balance, isn't it? Perhaps, your celibacy is an extreme, and perhaps stuffing 5 strangers into a month is the other end of the spectrum.

I've sat with this one for a few days… I don't think that unless it was for your writing these posts that I would ever be able to see what I've been caught in clearly enough to be able to face what's really happened.

I think I would believe all the garbage a con man has to say because, unless you stuck it out

I'm so glad you had super support on board from Destin!

I'd like to cultivate that emergency warning system for myself…

You deserve to have a lover who can take the time to honor himself and share himself with you authentically… to show up for you as you express your commitments… and do so live and in person… moment by moment…

I support his advice and that of people who encourage you to be discerning about who you have sex with. I'd say that most of what I learned recently taught me that I need to have the same kind of brothers in my life who stop me and make me check my

Jesus. That's 10 bottles of wine worth – at least.

Its difficult to find people you can truly count on. Good friends are rarer than good lovers.

Thanks for commenting. It's not about guarding. It's about being more honest so everyone can make good choices for themselves.

And yeah, body and heart can go together. But body without heart, which is what many people are doing … no thanks.

It's also about creating the life I really want, which for me means a permanent partnership with

What exactly is the required amount of time spent before sex is not casual.

To me sex is never casual. Even if I just met my partner. Why put conditions on my heart?

Reality is not the stories we tell ourselves. We can change the stories. That is supposed to be a big part of