Heh I think for guys this is where cologne, tight clothes, and not wearing underwear comes into play.

I appreciate your comment, as I noticed when GS said that too.

As for my own inconsistencies, I am acknowledging, as openly as I can, my own fears and sticking points. I believe that honesty with self and others is one of the quickest ways to overcome sticking points.

For me, having casual sex would run counter to my intention of facing my fears of

–"Well, I want to play the field for now but I am willing to settle down any time if I like a girl enough."

–"I'd like to find a girlfriend, but if I meet a girl down for a one night stand, then I'll go for that."

but then you say that until you meet "the one" your bed open.
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"This whole concept came to me because I saw too many community guys dicking around in field, playing game half-throttle (well really like 10%), without commitment to anything, and no idea what they wanted their lives to look like. They come to me and say "I don't know what I want." Well, I certainly can't help you get what you want if you don't know

Dan, you say:

"The one difficulty I can see is for guys that aren't sure what they want. Or guys who are comfortable with casual sex but want a relationship mostly."

Well, you're not going to get what you want until you decide what you want. The point of my post is to force a decision out of you — critical if you are hiring me as a

Dan, thanks for the Steve Pavlina link…

I had no idea anyone else was using the concept of polarity in any context. To me, it's about commitment, conscious choice, personal empowerment, congruence, and leading by clear intent.

What Pavlina is talking about polarizing did

And also, doesn't this remove spontaneity from the universe's plans for you? I know guys "on the prowl" who picked up a one night stand and it turned into their soul mate.

Also,