I appreciate your comment and the chance to clarify, but I feel a bit triggered by the words "you simply miss the fact." You are assuming my intention rather than asking me to clarify.

I am not proposing my questions as "openers." I actually was thinking of situations where either I already know someone, am introduced through social circle, or am

Approaching a woman and asking those questions off the start will off-put most women, because it is socially uncalibrated.

I do agree – Some questions are better than others.

But I've noticed most men and women feel the "interview" questions are dull, because they ask them

It's true that the "energy" behind the questions is far more important than the questions themselves.

But words are powerful, and asking questions in a new way can help us get in touch with our own aliveness and authentic curiosity, which will then bring out the aliveness of the other person.

I bet that if "Joe" met a girl witch by some miracle, accepted his "date invitation" and Joe stars throwing questions like

"If you could do anything what would you do" and "how would you Design your world"

the girls would respond just the