That part confuses me, because both men and women alike say a conversation is a 2-way street, so basically, in a nutshell, it’s the man that needs to have social-skills, conversation-skills, not the woman? or it’s just the man has to have better social-skills and conversation-skills than the woman does? the man prevents all awkward silences and pauses, fills in all gaps of conversation?

Because I learned a few years ago that “listening”, being a better listener is essential, imperative for improving conversation, i got this from a book:

“Everything that comes out of her mouth, is basically she’s giving you clues, giving you an indication as to what she is doing, so you can expand on that, and use that as continuing the conversation, your basically using the material she speaks out when she’s talking to you back on her rather than thinking of what to say next, it’s about being in the moment, being present.”

“If you are able to listen to what a woman is saying, and I mean really LISTEN, then you’ll be able to comment on it, because it is going to bring out an emotion, a story, or some way of connecting to it. And whats what a conversation is, it’s two people sharing experiences, thoughts and stories, and as a result, they both feel more of a connection when the conversation ends.
“Let’s think about the flow of a conversation with a woman. When you’re having a good conversation with a woman, you’ll talk, she’ll talk, you’ll talk, she reacts to what you say, you react to what she says, and the conversation moves forward. It feels natural and doesn’t require lines or canned routines.
You definetley don’t keep talking about the opener, which i know a lot of guys get stuck on. Many guys get trapped, because they are so focused on remembering this great opener they just learned, and they pulled it off, but then completely find themselves out of anything to say. And then they’ll find themselves in the worst situation ever. Silence. Awkward silence that seems to last forever, because they don’t know what to say, because they were not listening”

Actually Richard, I see it the opposite. The dating mistakes highlighted in the article are forms of shallowness. For example, “niceness” is the opposite of authenticity. Continuing to wear clothes that perhaps one learned how to wear from one’s parents instead of developing a unique sense of style and expression … is another form of superficiality. I would see this whole article as an invitation for people to go deeper. Instead of going through the motions.

I suppose you won’t mind then that I edited out your backlink? After all I’m sure you didn’t post for that reason …